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Patty Craig: A Slice of Time

Most of us have several friends, but some of our friends have stood by us more closely than others. Four of my friends have stood by me for years. These women have different roles in my life, but each one is very important to me: the encourager, the mentor, the reality checker, and the comrade.

These four close friends are all dependable, honest, and determined. They have good work ethics, and are loyal to their families and friends. My encourager is a talented woman who helps me to appreciate God’s gifts and to see humor in life. My mentor has helped me to find my way – personally and professionally. She can also cook – something to which I aspire. My reality checker provides me with criticism or praise; but, if necessary, she would defend me. My comrade is a confidant; she has walked with me on the mountain tops and through the valleys. She’s probably on information overload. Each of these women is a valued friend. They are keepers.
Friendship, a great blessing, is an interpersonal relationship that varies in degrees of intimacy. The value found in friendship is often the result of the person demonstrating some of the following characteristics on a consistent basis.
•    Enjoyment of each other's company.
•    The tendency to desire what is best for the other.
•    Mutual understanding and compassion; ability to go to each other for emotional support.
•    The ability to be oneself, express one's feelings and make mistakes without fear of judgement.
It is also very important to have honesty, trust, sympathy, respect and helpfulness in friendship (Wikipedia).
According to a 2006 study, Americans are thought to be suffering a loss in the quality and quantity of close friendships since at least 1985. The study reported that 25% of Americans have no close confidants, and the average total number of confidants per citizen has dropped from four to two. According to the study, Americans' dependence on family as a safety net went up from 57% to 80%, and Americans' dependence on a partner or spouse went up from 5% to 9%. These statistics sound like our society may be taking a step backward, but they also highlight the value of close friendships.
I’ve heard it said that “Troubles teach you how many friends you have.” Proverbs 27:10 instructs us not to forsake or fail friends in need. I don’t know how others would describe my friendship role in their lives, but I’m blessed with and thankful for my friends.

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Your article was right on time for me this week! Thanks for the great words of wisdom!


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